Dusica's Statement, Wellington, February 2008
By Patrizia Pompili on Wednesday, February 20 2008, 12:30 - Statements - Permalink
Dusica Vuckovic, Statement on Victim Assistance, Wellington Conference on Cluster Munitions, Wellington, 20 February 2008

Ladies and Gentlemen, I would like to make use of this opportunity to address this distinguished gathering. On behalf of myself, and on behalf of thousands of mothers and wives, I am here today to say something about the indirect victims of cluster munitions. I am the mother of two underage children and the wife of a man who was injured by a cluster bomb. On 25 April 1999, my life and the lives of my entire family were changed. On that day, I was informed that my husband had been seriously injured. The only thing I wished for was for him to stay alive, so that we could continue our lives as usual. Once before, he had told me that if he were ever to have an accident while working, he would rather be dead than maimed for life. I feared he would do something to harm himself.
The hardest thing was to explain to the children what had happened to their father. At that moment, I didn’t even know what the consequences of my husband’s injuries would be. I don’t know what was more difficult: To watch my husband’s torments, caused by these grave injuries, or my children growing up before their time. He was in the hospital when the children started a new school year. In addition to all the suffering and the pain, there were also financial troubles and uncertainty. Every visit to the hospital was painful, for me, for the children, and for their father. Instead of playing with other children, they were travelling all the time with me to the hospital to visit their father. At the hospital they had the opportunity to meet people, some of them barely younger than they, who also had been maimed by cluster bombs. They experienced prejudice and intolerance at school for years because of their father’s disability. I often ask myself the question, and now I am asking you, too: Who is the cluster bomb victim? Is it just the one innocent person, the victim him or herself, who is certainly suffering the most, or are we, the ones close to that person, also suffering too? The actual number of cluster munitions victims is much larger than what statistics show. Whole families, whole communities are affected by them. It is my opinion - and I am convinced that all women and all mothers would share this opinion - that it is high time to stop the killing and maiming of our children and husbands. It is high time to stop making victims out of our families.
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